Wednesday, May 09, 2012

A new card to share

Hey... thanks to those who came and played along in Crafty Secrets linky party. We do it the first Monday of every month.. so anytime you'd like to play along , we'd love to have you.   If you have any questions just shoot me an email :)

Websters pages and Scrapbook Adhesives by 3L started out May with a blog hop. Tons of gorgeous samples on both blogs if you want to check them out.  Here's a card I made using the "In Love" line from Websters.


We have been in process of getting moms house ready to put on the market.  My sibling will be here these next couple of weeks to go through things at the house.  I knew it would be emotional, but each day I realize more and more just how hard it will really be.  As I was writing the first two sentences above, I must have deleted and rewritten them four times, before I finally left it alone. I just don't even like to say it out loud because it makes me feel sick. We moved to this house when I was in first grade.  Lots of memories there.   Many homecooked meals and many great conversations were had in this little kitchen.


  
The guys trimmed trees at moms on Saturday. 


I worked a bit in moms flowers, then cut some of her peonies and Iris to take to the cemetery.  She did that every year for dads grave.  Her peonies and Iris were just so beautiful.



I have to remind myself daily.. it's just a house. We have the memories..and those are ours to keep.



I always debate about writing things like this here. They aren't happy things...but they are "life". We all have hard things in life we have to deal with , we just keep our chin up and try to get through them as best we can.  When I started this blog, I always told myself.. I'd keep it real.. share my projects and photos, and a bit of my and my family, and whats going on in my world. This process is a big part of whats going on in my life right now, it would seem weird not to mention it here.  Alot of you have been coming here and reading for a long time, and I consider you my friends :)   Huge thanks to everyone for your support when mom was ill.  Your kind words and cards touched me and carried me through.
Now it's time for another hard step....     please keep my family in your prayers one more time, if you would. Thanks friends!


                                                                                                      Vic




25 comments:

Misty Rushlow said...

Perfectly said in every way possible!! My heart and prayers are with you during this time. I know how hard it is, I still miss my dad every day and wish I could sit and talk with him. I am thankful to still have my mom and can't imagine what it will be like to lose her. Stay strong and we are all with you during these times. It's your friends and family that keep you strong during these difficult times. It is very hard to talk about and to share, but it's the part of life that helps each and every one of us heal!!! Hang in there...hugs!!!

Dawn's Craft Place said...

After going through the same this past year, I know how hard it is.Sending you prayers and strength that will help you through this transition.
I still have a hard time talking about it ...it is very helpful to talk about it.
Thanks for sharing your project with us today sweetie

julie said...

im so sorry for your lost and im sending great BIG hugs your way (). my prayers are with you and your family.

stampqueen said...

((((HUGS)))!!!

Shirley Sendgraff said...

Oh, Vicki< my heart truly aches for you and your siblings. I know how you're feeling after losing my dear Mom 6 weeks after she had a stroke on Father's Day. That in turn accelerated my Dads Alzheimers disease and he was gone 2 years later. It is so very difficult to clean out the house. Yes, everyone tells you they are just things, but it's so very hard to let any of it go--I know and I probably kept to many "things", but I wanted to preserve as many memories of her I could. And also make sure you keep things to pass down to future generations!! I didn't geta chance to keep any flowers, and I really regret that now! Make sure you get whatever means the most to you! I do have phlox from my dear Aunt Vi, and some even survived the move down here! Please know and feel the prayers and good wishes from all of us blog friends, and even though people tell you it'll get better, it does take everyone a different amount of time! I can honestly say I think it just changes as time marches on and your family grows by marriages and grandkids births. Some little thing can still send me to tears and THAT'S OKAY! I'll be thinking of you especially this Sunday and you'll be in my prayers always. Shirley

Sarah said...

{{{{Sending you hugs}}}}

Marlene (cards4u) said...

I can't imagine the pain that is in your heart - will be praying for you!
Take Care!!

Julie Higgins said...

My prayers and thoughts are with you as you go through things at your mom's house. It is very exhausting and I pray for strength for you to take one day at a time.

You are such a dear person! Take care:)

I will always miss your mom and treasure our conversations and even just her 'looks' at you and me being crazy!

'Count your rainbows, not your thunderstorms'

Julie Higgins

Dawn said...

Loving the card and the sentiment is a keeper (I have to get one ;0)

Re the house. Lots of memories and with the loss of your mother I can only imagine how difficult this time is. It was once a home and a place of comfort and now your mother is gone it's just a shell. You have so many happy memories to think of concentrate on those, your mother will always be with you Love and blessings to you at this difficult time Dawn xx

kathy/North Carolina said...

This is such a hard process....yes, you have your memories, and they are precious...but to be able to touch the table where your mom fed you, and walk through the rooms where so much of your life happened...this is a connection to one you love dearly. It is wrenching, exhausting and sad to let go of all these things. Knowing you will see your mom again in heaven is a wonderful hope...but it doesn't help with how much you miss her today. My mom lived with us for nearly 12 years before she moved in with my brother. I used to call her every single day as I was cleaning up breakfast. After she died, I would find myself picking up the phone to dial her number. So, I get it. The pain of separation never completely goes away, but it does fade, and it does get easier. Keeping you in my prayers, sweet lady. Remember to be good to yourself right now. Rest, eat well, be sure to get a little exercise every day. It sounds silly, but it really does help. Hugs....

marcia said...

You and your family are in my prayers, losing a family member is so hard. You are right, you will have your memories. Some days the memories will make you smile, some you will laugh, you'll cry and maybe even get frustrated. A memory will hit you and it will take you breath away or it will provide inspiration. I pray you find hope in the days ahead.

Susie said...

Thank you for sharing this part of your life with us Vicki. So many of us have been in the same situation, sadly. My Dad passed in 2003, then my Mom (8 months later) in 2004. I tried not to keep to many "things", but what I treasure the most are the photo albums. They bring back so many happy memories!
You're in my thoughts and prayers Vicki.

Jane said...

Thinking about you, Vicki, as you go through your mother's things to prepare the house. I know what it's like, believe me! Praying for strength for you and your family.
Love the card - just beautiful!

Jane Wetzel said...

Hey there Vicki...we are dealing with the loss of my fil right now who we saw every day...My heart goes out to you and your family. It is good to talk about it and we need to keep hangin in there. Sending you a hug and a prayer, jane

Ellen Jarvis said...

Dear Vicki: Your pain is palpable in your writing, though at the same time, I feel the warmth of your memories as you write about your mother's home. It's funny: even though I am still very blessed to have both of my parents above God's green earth, I still think of the homes we have left behind as our homes, because a bit of my heart has stayed behind, imprinted in the rooms and the gardens there. They will always be there. Occasionally, I drive by former homes -- even ones I lived in when I was 6 and 11, and can still in my mind's eye see myself sledding, riding bikes, our old collie running in the freshly cut grass that I can still smell even in the deepest winter.

You're right: You take those memories, and oddly enough, enjoy seeing how others might repaint the porch or plant new flowers, with toddlers' bikes new at the curb.

Your mom's peony is gorgeous! It reminds me of the first time my now-husband saw me cry. I'd left my first husband, father of my daughter Emily, leaving behind a beautiful home I loved and nurtured. After one weekend's visit at Dad's, John and I picked her up and took her out to dinner. There, she was effusive in describing how luscious my gardens had blossomed, where I'd planted hundreds of plants and bulbs but left them behind when I escaped the abusive marriage. Tears (even today, 18 years later!) welled ... I missed not the man, but the piece of my heart I left behind and now could not feel or see.

Those moments are what make us human, and the humanity you share on your blog makes it more than simply a monitor attached to my computer. What I see when I look into my monitor is not flat -- it's a person, with heart and soul and feelings and life. Thank you for your openness and honesty, and the beauty you share.

Fondly,
Ellen ♥ CardMonkey
http://cardmonkey-business.blogspot.com
E-mail: cardmonkey@comcast.net

Debbie K. said...

Vicki, my heart is with you and your family. When my dad passed it was like our hearts were torn in half. Keep your chin up, cherish and hug your family members and hopefully it will be easier to bear. Fond memories will never, ever leave you...
BIG HUGS,
DebbieK

Lisa T. said...
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Lisa T. said...

So sorry you have to go throug this. My dad passed away in 2006 and it was hard going through his things with mom. Hugs to you and keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. {{Hugs}}

Cheryl S. said...

I am so sorry you are having to deal with all these issues but I want you to know I am praying for you and your family. My mother passed away in January at the age of 97 and my father passed away 17 years ago. I cleaned out the house, with my husband's and a friend's help and I know what you are going through. My father and grandfather had built the house for my parents when they were newly weds. It was the only home I knew until I went away to college and then got married. Know that you are not alone with these feelings. - Cheri

harrahx2 said...

Vicki, this is the appropriate place to share the sorrow as well as the joy. My heart is with you and my strength is yours when you need it. Sending a huge hug to help sustain you during the difficult times. Love you lady!

Micki said...

Vicky,
I know about the uncertainty of posting real life stuff on a "crafty" blog but like you said it's life and it's not all peaches and creme. I say this but we just past my S-I-L's 1 year passing and I find myself not posting at all because I just can't find it in me to be all fun, chipper and happy. KWIM?

Yes, it's just a house and the memories are yours forever!!!!! Big hugs!

PS: oh and gorgeous card and not having a green thumb, I literally drooled over those flowers! Keeping you and yours in my prayers.

Becky Dunham said...

Oh Vicki, my heart is just aching for you honey. I am glad that you share the bad along with the good here on your blog. After all, you are not a robot - none of us are :) I am praying for you and your family through this difficult period of your life. I am dreading the day that I too will have to face it. Big cyber hugs coming at you :)

I love this gorgeous card - saved a copy in my inspiration file (hope you don't mind)

jan said...

Such beautiful peonies to remind you of your mother!

I was just thinking how happy you make others, sharing your art, even though your art makes YOU happy too! :)

Diana said...

Hugs and prayers being sent your way. I know how hard it is sweetie. I have been there. Everyone here has taken those beautiful words right out of my mouth so "ditto" Hugs! :)

Charlotte Zweigoron said...

The sentiment of "keeping it real" is what makes this more than just some information on a screen. To me, you are all special friends BECAUSE we share so much of our inner self... I feel that sharing our art is sharing part of our most real self. Adding other details of our lives gives us even more sense of community. It is "just a house". The day will come when you will not want to drive by or take another look because nothing will be able to match the memories you have. TFS